Single life

Am I destined to be single for the rest of my days? Finding someone at my age seems impossible, especially in the age of online dating.

I’m kind of over the apps at this point. They feel like such a waste of time, and you have to weed through so many unavailable, unresponsive, or just plain rude and vulgar men to even get to a good conversation or a meet up in person with a real dude.

From there, I seem to somehow end up with felons or people who have been in jail, at least that seems to be my pattern recently. Lol. It’s made for some funny stories, but also kind of depressing.

I will admit, I’m picky. I’m content being single, I’m financially stable, I can take care of myself, and right now my kids come first. But I have to believe that there is somebody out there that would appreciate what I’m looking for in a relationship and be a good fit.

Part of me loves being single, I sleep so good at night in my giant bed with no one snoring next to me, but I miss companionship, and I wish I had a partner to bring to events and gatherings so that I wasn’t always having to show up alone.

So for now, that’s what I’m looking for. Someone that can hold a good conversation, likes meeting new people and networking, isn’t married or in another relationship, and doesn’t smell bad (I used to always put that last part in my dating profiles, usually got a good laugh out of people and I had some really nice smelling first dates. lol)

Hygiene is important though and I also really appreciate good teeth and a nice smile. 

Other things that I think would be necessary for a romantic relationship, but not necessary for a friendship or event companion:

1. Loves Jesus
2. Goes to church 
3. Financially stable 
4. Emotionally mature/intelligent
5. Kind
6. Glass half full (or all full!) outlook on life
7. Sees therapy as a valuable tool, not a weakness
8. Enjoys the outdoors
9. Has own friends and hobbies (doesn’t need or expect my attention 100% of the time)
10. Relatively healthy (now I know I am not the epitome of good health right now, I could stand to lose 40 - 50 lbs, but I do exercise, I try to make good food, choices, and I want to remain healthy and active enough to do activities with my kids and take care of myself as I age. I hope to find someone with similar goals and desires so that we can support each other in an active lifestyle.

I’m open to suggestions or being set up by friends, I actually think that would be a more comfortable way to meet someone than just swiping through online profiles. So this is my invitation to you to keep your eye out for me for any honorable, respectful men who might be looking for friendship and possibly more if the boxes check for both of us and the chemistry is there. 

40’s to 50’s age bracket. 
Taller than me (yes, I’m one of those girls… and I’m 5’6”)
Darker skin or non-white ethnicity is attractive to me but not a necessity
I’m not a gold digger by any means, but I have worked hard to be successful in my career and have extra money to do fun things like travel and eat out, so I would prefer to partner with someone who also has flexibility in their time and budget.
And they really must love Jesus and see the value in the local church if it’s going to be a good fit, romantically.

Okay that’s all for now! Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have anyone in mind 😉



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